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And all subsided in the hush
that followed, in the calm
of great wings folding
and shadowy forms lying down.

I rose and left that room,
the house of my grief
and my bondage, my book
never again to be opened.

To see as once I saw,
steadied by the darkness
in which I walked
and would make my way.

John Haines

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You Know Therapy Is Working When . . .

by David Fireman, LCSW, and client

You feel increasingly uncomfortable with the status quo when it is causing harm

Your causes and relationships begin to more closely reflect and reinforce your values

You take the risk to trust your own change and learning processes

You stop making excuses (make less of them)

You become more honest with yourself and others

You empathically confront and challenge your own and others’ fears, illusions, and self-imposed constraints

You use your own voice to respectfully express your values, opinions, perspectives—especially when they differ from those of others

You learn how to collaborate and share with others more efficiently and effectively

You sustain your efforts and remain engaged in your struggles

You open yourself to a range of feelings, many of which are unfamiliar

You do not relax until it is time to do so

You blaze more trails

You follow your own instincts and consult your conscience with more confidence

You know better when to say no

You know better when to say yes

You access the best within yourself to make your life meaningful and to repair the world

You feel more free to ask questions

You experience sadness at the suffering of others and find fitting ways to help alleviate suffering

You learn to use your angry feelings less as weapons and more as fuel to influence positive change

You are more willing to think and act courageously and creatively

You know better the difference between “I get to” and “I ought to”

You begin to feel more excited about the future and less held back by the past.

You are able to recognize a positive trajectory forward over time

You fee empowered to make the best decision possible when confronted with a myriad of options

You have more compassion for your own discomfort but have more faith that you can control/regulate your own actions/behavior

You can distinguish between what feels good in the moment and what is good for you/sustaining in the long run.


Copyright, 2011
David Fireman, LCSW



The Center is expanding.

Center for Grief Recovery and Therapeutic Services has immediate openings for two full-time licensed psychologists. Click here for more information

The Center is expanding. Click here to for more about our newest clincial professional counselor, Elizabeth Cerven

New Groups

The Center is now taking names for new Healing Our Losses Group. See attached flyer and FAQ for detailed info. Contact Us by phone or email to find out more.

New Workshops
Center colleague Allan Schnarr, MDiv, PhD offering new CHANGE OF HEART . . . . Vulnerability and Self-transcendence workshop . . . [read more]

Center colleague Allan Schnarr, MDiv, PhD offering new "TRANSFORMING LOVE - Creativity as a way of new life" workshop . . . [read more]

News and Events
Thank You! Our 30th Anniversary celebration was a hit. To read more, click on this link.

Center Grief Recovery celebrates 30 Years with Open House Fundraiser. To learn more, click on this link.

We are excited to announce that Paul Martin, PsyD has become the Center's assistant director. To learn more about Paul's practice click on this link.

The Center Expands Again! Please join us in welcoming Megan Kelleher, LCSW who comes to us with wonderfully empathic presence, and a broad range of helping skills. You can learn more about her by visiting our Therapists section or clicking on this link.

Community Walk for Grief Support: Celebrating 25 Years of Transformation
The Center celebrated its 25th year anniversary with a fund raiser walk in Rogers Park, Chicago on June 4.
[read more]

New Articles

New interview on ideas for what to say and do to support the bereaved, by the Center's Meg Kelleher, LCSW. [read here]

Pain Bonds Us - I feel close to you when you let your pain show. A protective shield inside me slides away. [read more]

Private Practice: Dynamic Psychotherapy and Bereavement Counseling (CEU) [read more]

You Know Therapy Is Working When . . . - You feel increasingly uncomfortable with the status quo when it is causing harm. [read more]

Ideas About Mourning - For the griever the future feels shattered; everything hoped for is broken and gone/ lost like a broken mirror. [read more]

Myths and Realities of Mourning - Regrettably, our society maintains a host of unrealistic assumptions and inappropriate expectations when it comes to the work of grief and mourning. Here are some myths to consider: [read more]

The Difference Between Grief and Mourning - It is critical to know the difference between grief and mourning. Both processes are there to help the bereaved face the reality that their loved one is gone and then to slowly begin to accommodate to that fact. [read more]


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